In an open letter published by South China Morning Post on Wednesday, Gigi Chao, 34, reaches out to her father, asking for him to come to terms with the fact that she is a lesbian.
Earlier this month, Cecil Chao Sze-tsung, a 77-year-old property magnate, insisted that Gigi was 'still single', despite the fact that she married her long-term partner Sean Eav two years ago. He reportedly offered to double his 2012 offer of $65m (£40m).
SEE Gigi' Letter to her father:
Dear Daddy, I thought the timing was
right for us to have a candid conversation. You are one of the most
mentally astute, energetic yet well mannered and hard-working people
this humble earth has ever known. Your confidence, quick wit, and
charisma brightens any room you enter. I love you very much, and I think
I can speak for my brothers also, that we have the utmost respect for
you as a father and role model in business. I am sorry that people have
been saying insensitive things about you lately. The truth is, they
don’t understand that I will always forgive you for thinking the way you
do, because I know you think you are acting in my best interests. And
we both don’t care if anybody else understands. As your daughter, I
would want nothing more than to make you happy.
But in terms of relationships, your
expectations of me and the reality of who I am, are not coherent. I am
responsible for some of this misplaced expectation, because I must have
misled you to hope there were other options for me. You know I’ve had
male lovers in the past, and I’ve had happy, albeit short-lived,
relationships. I found myself temporarily happy, buoyed by the
freshness, the attention, the interest, of someone physically stronger
than myself. But it was always short-lived, as I quickly lost patience,
and felt an indescribable discomfort in their presence. It usually made
me frustrated, and I would yearn for my freedom again. I’ve broken a few
hearts, hearts of good, honest and loving men, and I’m sorry that it
had to be so. But with Sean, a woman, somehow it was different. I am
comfortable and satisfied with my life and completely at ease with her. I
know it’s difficult for you to understand how I could feel romantically
attracted to a woman; I suppose I can’t really explain it either. It
just happens, peacefully and gently, and after so many years, we still
love each other very much.
My regret is that you have no idea how
happy I am with my life, and there are aspects of my life that you don’t
share. I suppose we don’t need each other’s approval for our romantic
relationships, and I am sure your relationships are really fantastic
too. However, I do love my partner Sean, who does a good job of looking
after me, ensuring I am fed, bathed and warm enough every day, and
generally cheering me up to be a happy, jolly girl. She is a large part
of my life, and I am a better person because of her. Now, I’m not asking
you to be best of friends; however, it would mean the world to me if
you could just not be so terrified of her, and treat her like a normal,
dignified human being. I understand it is difficult for you to
understand, let alone accept this truth. I’ve spent a lot of time
figuring out who I am, what is important in my life, who I love and how
best to live life, as an expression of all these questions. I am proud
of my life, and I would not choose to live it any other way (except also
figuring out how to be gentler on the planet). I’m sorry to mislead you
to think I was only in a lesbian relationship because there was a
shortage of good, suitable men in Hong Kong. There are plenty of good
men, they are just not for me. Wishing you happiness.
Patiently yours,
Your daughter, Gigi.
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