THINGS WIVES WISH THEIR HUSBANDS KNEW

God created men and women differently and by default, their peculiarities come to play especially within the confines of marriage. Where there exist a lack of understanding of these differences or better put; uniqueness, there will be lots of mistreatment and misunderstandings. Women by creation are more 'refined' and delicate beings who need to be treated with lots of care. As such, there are things wives really wish their husbands knew. Some of them are as follows:

1. BE THE HEAD OF THE HOUSE IN EVERY SENSE OF THE WORD

Lead the home by providing direction. Wives hate it when they have to be the ones to think up something and be the head, when there is a husband at home.

2. HEAD THE HOME SPIRITUALLY AS WELL

 It is easy for a wife to follow a spiritual husband. Your wife submits

3. YOUR WIFE WOULD LOVE YOU TO LEAD RATHER THAN RULE

People talk to rule, they give instructions and directives; that seems fine but it is a lot easier when you are the first to do what you have said. Your wife wants the children to learn the right things from you as their father. A leader takes the lead, but a ruler just dishes out instructions. You will earn your wife's respect when you lead and not rule.

4. YOUR WIFE WANTS YOU MUCH MORE THAN YOUR MONEY OR ANYTHING ELSE YOU HAVE TO GIVE

She wants your time, your affection, conversation and attention. You love by giving yourself. (Ephesians 5:25.)

5. YOUR WIFE WANTS YOU TO UNDERSTAND HER

She wants you to understand that she may not be able to explain all that she feels. However, she wants you to take her seriously whenever she cautions you about a particular line of action or anything at all. Just take it seriously, no matter how crazy it sounds. Don't quickly dismiss her suggestions and ideas only to take someone else's seriously over her.

6. YOUR WIFE WANTS TO BE VERY EMOTIONALLY CLOSE TO YOU IN A NON SEXUAL WAY

Any time you approach her, it shouldn't be about sex alone. Your wife does not want to be viewed as a sex object only, such that anytime you see her it is sex you want, regardless of all the horrible things you might have done to her earlier. She wants to be held, touched and spoken to without sex in your mind. She wants you to cuddle her into sleep without winding up in sex.     *This is hard for men, but it is the reality of what women want*

7. YOUR WIFE WANTS YOU TO BE CLOSE TO THE CHILDREN

Be involved in your children's lives; be a part of all that they do. Your wife wants you to know the children more than you probably do right now. Don't make it look as if the children are not yours as well. Every time you get involved with the children, you make her fulfilled and very very happy. A wife just loves to sit back and watch her husband play with the children; it is a great sight for her to behold.

8. YOUR WIFE WANTS TO COME FIRST IN YOUR LIFE AFTER GOD

She hates it when you put any other person or thing ahead of her - not your friends, your work, the children or even your work for God. If you give your wife her rightful place, your work for God will not suffer.

9. YOUR WIFE WANTS EXCLUSIVITY

Don't even try to do anything special for anyone in your past. Your former girl friends should be kept very far away.

10. YOUR WIFE WANTS YOU TO KNOW HOW TO MAKE LOVE AND NOT JUST HAVE SEX.

ASSIGNMENT

1. Have a time with your spouse, and then discuss these points with each other.
2. Find ways to make corrections.
3. Allow your spouse to mention two other points that may not be on the list.
4. Determine not to make it into quarrel session. Be matured about it.

PRAYER

-Lord give me grace to accept my wrongs and make all the necessary adjustments in Jesus Name.

-Lord I pray your blessing on my spouse and on my marriage in Jesus Name.

NUGGET

Your wife does not want to be viewed as a sex object only, she wants to be held, touched and spoken to without sex in your mind.

Culled from the book "Transform your marriage in 40 days" by Pastor Ezekiel Atang.

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